Ever reached a point in your life where you think, who am I? who will I become? Is this what the rest of my life looks like? I think it’s fair to say we all ask ourselves these questions more often than we care to admit.
I was there, I was there thinking I had done so much up to a point but what next? Could I handle the next life challenge? would I be ok?
I love to laugh, I also love to love (That’s a song right? “Oh, I love to love”) I most definitely love to live and enjoy life.
Who am I? I think I have worked out who I am currently, but I’m still changing and growing as a person, some people are still finding themselves so much later on in their lives. It’s normal, a part of life I guess. When I was younger I was a completely different character, extremely extrovert I mean extremely. I was fearless. I have tamed so much. I still love a good laugh but I’m not as mad as I was back then. I am still very honest that’s one thing that has never changed and I also still show my emotions. A lot.
Society suggested the order in which to do things in your life and when you should do them….Bla bla bla. Nope, I was the misfit in society clearly then and perhaps now, I don’t know, but really I don’t care. I didn’t and don’t want to do what society told me to do. I got a job whilst at school and have always worked incredibly hard. I wanted my job to provide me with a good lifestyle. I wanted to live and laugh.
She who dares, wins! I have always been different, I have always wanted to be different actually, I never was a follower of people. It doesn’t make me a bad person to not want the same things as others. I don’t have the urge to get married nor do I particularly want children right now in my life. I do however respect and appreciate those that have done everything I have chosen not to do right now. I’m not saying I will never do those things, I’m just not ready at this stage in my life. The pressures that young people are under to do what everyone else is doing is not great to be honest. Live your life the way you want to live it.
You have to be confident, trust what your heart is telling you and believe in your own judgement. These things will help you find yourself. All is not lost though, if you are going through hard times it will pass and things do get better. In time, you will be able to concentrate on you. If have a hectic life with no time for you then learning about yourself will be impossible, so you need to make time to take a breather.
What does the future hold? Start to take control and focus on the here and now. Your future is determined by the changes you make in your life in the present. You could change your career path for example or change your perspective on things. Remove the negatives and the negative people. Set goals and only strive for greatness but be prepared for the hurdles to jump over along the way.
When you are feeling lost my advice would be to think about what you love to do. For example, I have a passion to run my own business and this is my driving force. Think of something that gives you that buzz and remember the positive feeling it gave you. Make a commitment to yourself that you will do it again.
We all have dreams of how we want our lives to look. Most dreams are a million miles away from our present situations, but it doesn’t mean to say its unachievable, it could happen one day, who knows? depends on the scale of your dreams and how much effort you are willing to put in to make your dreams reality. Yes, I would love a lottery win, but I’m not standing still waiting for it. My dreams currently consist of me having a launch party for my business and ensuring the table setting is immaculately laid. We all have visions, some big, some small. Mine may seem silly to some but those are my dreams.
I would also say sometimes its well worth taking a risk. This not only pushes you to your limit but you learn a lot about yourself in the process. I have had certain situations where I was completely out of my comfort zone, but I soon realised I was stronger than I thought, I just never tested myself to know that I am quite a strong person. That was all down to me taking a gamble which was most definitely a risk.
You will find yourself if you are lost, it’s only a matter of time, but remember you are forever changing so it’s ok to be who you are at any point.
Make that change a positive one.
Thanks for taking the time to read you are welcome to leave comments below.
With Love Mel x